Divorce can be a scary thing. There is so much unknown, and so much to think about. Once it is all done and the dust is settled, staring at the emptiness around you can feel overwhelmingly sad, frightening, and unfamiliar. This is true even if the divorce was your idea in the first place, or you realized it was for the best after your ex-spouse talked to you about it.
However, although these feelings will probably come, there is no need for them. Life after a divorce is something to be grateful for, and here are some of the reasons why.
You Have Another Chance
Some marriages just don’t work out. The reasons don’t matter; if yours wasn’t right and wasn’t making you happy, then it is best that it is over now. What is even better is that, far from being left alone and unsure, you have been given an entirely new chance to live your life. You might want to find another partner, and that is only natural, but don’t rush into a new relationship. Instead, enjoy the freedom and opportunities that you have been given.
You could choose to:
- Go back to school
- Take up a new hobby
- Go out whenever you want to
- Enjoy being alone
Plus there is so much more. You can now make your life whatever you want it to be, and this divorce could be just the catalyst you needed to make a start.
You Are Capable
Maybe you married young and have never lived by yourself. Or perhaps you have been married for a long time, and you can’t remember what it was like to have to deal with everything that needs to be done in a home. Now you can see just how capable you are because you will be the one that you have to rely on to get everything done.
You will find that you are much more capable than you realized. Engaging Crisp & Co Family Solicitors to help you through the process and get you to this point is a wonderful start, but the rest is down to you, and the sooner you understand exactly what you are capable of – inside and outside the home – the more confident you will become.
You Can Set Clear Boundaries
Within a bad marriage, boundaries can often be blurred. We all need to set clear boundaries in order to have some time to ourselves, to do the things that we want, and to spend time with friends rather than a partner.
Once you are free of that bad marriage, you can work on setting clear boundaries. You are in complete control of what you want and don’t want, and you can say so. It’s a freeing feeling and one that is wonderful for your mental health, keeping you happier, healthier, and more confident going forward.
You Can Parent Better
If you have children, then you might worry that a divorce will affect them as much as it will affect you and your ex. It’s true that they will be affected, but once they realize that you can be a much better parent on your own when you’re not arguing with their second parent or feeling upset due to a disagreement or simply a feeling of discontentment, they should understand it was for the best.
They will be able to engage with you more, and even if you are no longer living together, the time you do spend together will be precious.