We’ve been together for almost 5 years, and our relationship is not perfect, like what Mitch said, “there’s no such as perfect relationship.”  And cheating is not new to our relationship.  I can say from my experience, to have your loved one cheat on you, it’s really devastating.

When I learned that he cheated on me, being an emotional person, I cried buckets of tears.  {I’m a cry baby.}  Then, I confronted him. Though, it was hard to hear the truth, I wanted it straight from his mouth. I didn’t want to hear the answers from others.  It’s between the two of us.

But because I love him so much, {or should I say matibay ang helmet na binigay nya sakin}, I forgave him over and over again.

I guess I would need to pay more attention to how our relationship.

How about you? What would you do if you found out that your partner cheats on you? Join us in When SAHMone Speaks Meme

1. I occasionally get up in the middle of the night to check my blog.
2. I update my main blogs 3-5 times a day
3. I want to blog everything that is happening around me
4. I always look for an EC widget in every site

Do you think I’m a blog addict?

Do you celebrate anniversaries? How?

During Anniversaries or even monthsaries, we make sure we do something special. Because I’m the person who wants surprises or something exciting during anniversaries or any special occasion.

Travel is one of my passions, so during our special days, we go to different places like Baguio.

We even went to Puerto Galera, Pagudpud, Subic, Tagaytay and more.

However, when we got married, we don’t have enough time and money to travel.  So we celebrate our monthsaries at home.

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I never realized that Monch and I have been married for 10 months.  We were a couple for almost 4 years before we finally got married.

So, we’ve been together for almost 5 years.   I’m happy that I married the right guy.  I feel safe everytime I’m with him.  But I feel there is something missing or should I say someone.  Having a baby is our plan but no matter what we do, it fails. I think I have a problem with conceiving.

My mom says here are some of the factors of not conceiving:
1. Stress.
I admit I become anxious and stressed out these past few months. That’s one of the reasons I quit my job.
2. Diet.
I’m guilty! I’m overweight and I have poor eating habits. But I’m trying to lose weight and starting to eat healthy foods.
3. Caffeine.
I learned that caffeine is thought to restrict the growth of a developing baby by constricting blood vessels and reducing blood flow to the uterus. But I don’t drink coffee anymore.

I think it is really time to see my Ob-gyne again. Honestly, I’m afraid to go to my Ob-gyne and have some tests.  The thought of infertility scares me.  However, I really want to have a baby.   I guess it is not yet time for us to have a baby.

If you have something to say towards someone special, say it now before it’s too late….

When I read this, I remember a story that I received a long long time ago.  I kept this because I learned from this story.

I had a best friend when I was in college.  My world revolved around him, but he did not know.  I did not tell my feelings for him because he was my friend’s ex boyfriend.  Everybody was saying that we look like a couple. But I still hide my feelings.  I always say that we are just friends.   I did not have plans of keeping it to myself forever, I am was just waiting for the right time.  Though we both know our feelings for each other  (thanks to our talkative friend), I still did not say anything… I did not tell him how much I love loved him.

He was really frustrated and eventually left me…  When I had the courage to tell him everything, he was already committed.  I haven’t talk to him for years.  Sometimes, I was wondering what if I told him earlier, will he be with me today?

Anyway, here is the story I was saying earlier…. And I hope you will learn something from this

As I sat there in English class,
I stared at the girl next to me
She was my so called ‘best friend ‘
I stared at her long[/color], silky hair,
and wished she was mine
But she didn’t notice me like that,
and I knew it…
After class, she walked up to me and
asked me for the notes
she had missed the day before
I handed them to her
She said ‘thanks’ and left…
I want to tell her, I want her to know
that I don’t want to be just friends,
I love her but I’m just too shy,
and I don’t know why…

11th Grade…

The phone rang…On the other end,
it was her…She was in tears,
mumbling on and on about how her
love had broke her heart
She asked me to come over because
she didn’t want to be alone, So I did
As I sat next to her on the sofa,
I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine
After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie,
and three bags of chips, she decided to go home
She looked at me, said ‘thanks’ and left…
I want to tell her, I want her to know that
I don’t want to be just friends,
I love her but I’m just too shy,
and I don’t know why…

Senior year…

One fine day she walked to my locker
“My date is sick” she said, “hes not gonna go well”,
I didn’t have a date, and in 7th grade,
we made a promise that if neither of us had dates,
we would go together just as ‘best friends’
So we did…That night, after everything was over,
I was standing at her front door step
I stared at her as She smiled at me
and stared at me with her crystal eyes
Then she said- “I had the best time, thanks!” and
left…
I want to tell her,
I want her to know
that I don’t want to be just friends,
I love her but I’m just too shy,
and I don’t know why…

Graduation…

A day passed, then a week, then a month
Before I could blink, it was graduation day
I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel
up on stage to get her diploma
I wanted her to be mine-but
she didn’t notice me like that, and I knew it
Before everyone went home,
she came to me in her smock and hat,
and cried as I hugged her
Then she lifted her head from my shoulder
and said- ‘you’re my best friend, thanks’ and left…
I want to tell her, I want her to know
that I don’t want to be just friends,
I love her but I’m just too shy,
and I don’t know why…

Marriage…

Now I sit in the pews of the church
That girl is getting married now
and drive off to her new life,
married to another man
I wanted her to be mine,
but she didn’t see me like that,
and I knew it…
But before she drove away,
she came to me and said ‘you came! ‘
She said ‘thanks’ and left…
I want her to know that
I don’t want to be just friends,
I love her but I’m just too shy,
and I don’t know why…

Death…

Years passed, I looked down at the coffin
of a girl who used to be my ‘best friend’.
At the service, they read a diary entry
she had wrote in her high school years
This is what it read:
“I stare at him wishing he was mine;
but he doesn’t notice me like that,
and I know it. I want to tell him,
I want him to know that
I don’t want to be just friends,
I love him but I’m just too shy,
and I don’t know why…
I wish he would tell me he loved me ! ”
…’I wish I did too’…
I thought to my self, and I cried…..

2. What was your happiest moment when you were a child?
- htoo many too mention

3. Where is the place that you want to go the most?
- Paris

4. When is your birthday?
- April 23

5. When you encounter a sad moment, what do you do?
- sleep

6. What are you afraid to lose the most?
-everyone I love

7. If you win $1 million, what would you do?
- Start a business, and take a cruise..

8. What is the saddest moment for you last year (2007)?
-hmm a week before I get married… can’t tell you why

9. Which actor/actress would you like to play you in a movie?
- Angelina Jolie hahahahaha

10. How do you cope with boredom?
- blogging

11. Till now, what is the moment that you regret the most?
-Life is just too short to fill it with regrets

12. What type of person do you hate the most?
- liers

13. What is your ambition?
- have my own business

14. If you had one wish, what would you wish for?
- To become a a billionaire

15. How did you celebrate New Year?
- I celebrated it with mu husband and family

16. What has been the craziest thing you’ve ever done in your whole life?
- I get married… crazy in a nice way

17. What do you look forward to in 2008?
- to have a baby (I hope)

18. If your life is a song, what title best fits it?
- This is my now…

19. What is your inspiration in life?
- everything around me

20. If you were to change one event in your life, what would it be?
- None. coz if I change one event, maybe my life would be different and I don’t want that. I’m happy and contented now..

The following are stress-busting ideas to help keep calm and maintain perspective:

1. Breathe Easily
Breathing from your diaphragm oxygenates your blood, which helps you relax almost instantly.

2. Make Time for a Mini Self-Massage
Massage your palm by making a circular motion with the thumb.

3. Say Cheese
Smiling transmits nerve impulses from the facial muscles to the limbic system, a key emotional center in the brain, tilting the neurochemical balance toward calm.

4. Switch to Decaf
Subtract a little regular coffee and add some decaf to your morning cup. You should also consider switching from regular soft drinks to caffeine-free ones or sparkling mineral water.

5. Warm Up
Rub your hands together vigorously until they feel warm. Then cup them over your closed eyes for five seconds while you breathe deeply. The warmth and darkness are comforting.

6. Shake It Up
Stand or sit, stretch your arms out from your sides and shake your hands vigorously for about 10 seconds. Combine this with a little deep breathing. This quick exercise helps loosen the muscles in your neck and upper back.

7. Munch Some Snacks
Foods that are high in carbohydrates stimulate the release of serotonin, feel-good brain chemicals that help induce calm. Crackers, pretzels, or a bagel should do the trick.

8. Try Tea
Whether you use tea bags or loose tea (one teaspoon of tea per cup of boiling water), steep for about 10 minutes to get the full benefits of the herbs. Try chamomile tea.

9. Take a Walk
Try walking to the bathroom or water cooler, or by pacing back and forth.

10. Stretch
Muscles tighten during the course of the day, and when we feel stressed out, the process accelerates. Stretching loosens muscles and encourages deep breathing.

Are you stressed? Find out by taking the test below.

(This test is not meant to replace a clinical assessment but to help you judge how you are doing. If you score as stressed you may need to seek help.)

Answer these twenty questions: Yes or No.

1. Do you frequently neglect your diet?
2. Do you frequently try to do everything yourself?
3. Do you frequently blow up easily?
4. Do you frequently seek unrealistic goals?
5. Do you frequently fail to see the humor in situations others find funny?
6. Do you frequently get easily irritated?
7. Do you frequently make a “big deal” of everything?
8. Do you frequently complain that you are disorganized?
9. Do you frequently keep everything inside?
10. Do you frequently neglect exercise?
11. Do you frequently have few supportive relationships?
12. Do you frequently get too little rest?
13. Do you frequently get angry when you are kept waiting?
14. Do you frequently ignore stress symptoms?
15. Do you frequently put things off until later?
16. Do you frequently think there is only one right way to do something?
17. Do you frequently fail to build relaxation into every day?
18. Do you frequently spend a lot of time complaining about the past?
19. Do you frequently race through the day?
20. Do you frequently feel unable to cope with all you have to do.

SCORING: 1 point for every YES

Scores of 1-6 Few Hassles
Scores of 7-12 Pretty Good Control
Scores of 13-17 Danger Zone. Watch out!
Scores of 18+ Stressed Out. You may need help.

My Lakbayan grade is C!

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